CHAPTER 310: CHAPTER 311: A MAN SHOULD NOT BE OVERINDULGED

The main reason is that everyone has limited ingredients, and the food is simple, not like in the future where recipes are everywhere and there are many gourmet recipes on the internet, even videos.

As long as one has a bit of interest, and they go learn and try, it would be hard not to be able to cook unless you’re a kitchen nightmare.

During the meal, Xia Jing tugged at Xia Xiao’s sleeve, and the sisters went out for a walk.

"Sis, when do you think is a good time for me to marry?" Xia Jing asked.

Xia Xiao said, "While your relationship with Yan Hao is good, don’t rush into marriage. Wait at least another two years. If during these two years, your relationship remains stable and you both feel it’s right, then get married."

"I was thinking the same. Today, Yan Hao mentioned marriage to me, and although I do want to marry him, he has just arrived here, and I don’t know what the situation is with his family. I didn’t agree to it—I want to date him for two more years," Xia Jing said.

Xia Xiao nodded, "Then you should tell him that you are currently dating, and you should communicate with each other. I’ve advised you to date for another two years mainly because you’re in the production team now; it’s different from how it used to be in the city. Here, having a spirit to endure hardship and resilience is necessary, and this place really tempers a person. When one is in a difficult situation, it becomes easier to see someone’s true nature."

Speaking of this, Xia Xiao continued, "I’m not saying Yan Hao isn’t good. He is very good, and his feelings for you are genuine, but he’s not mature enough yet. You are both young, there’s no need to marry so soon. After all, after you get married, there will be more things to consider, so proposing marriage now is too early. Also, you need to be mentally prepared, you can’t hide and avoid meeting his family forever."

Xia Jing nodded, "I understand, sis."

"Yan Hao is probably proposing marriage because of the situation in the production team. If you were to get married, you could apply for your own dormitory, like Wang Aihua and Fang Yuejin did. Otherwise, you have to live as you are now, with him in the male educated youth dormitory and you in the female educated youth dormitory. It’s not convenient to eat together often; after all, you must consider the thoughts of your roommates, right?"

Upon hearing this, Xia Jing said, "Yes, Yan Hao said the same thing to me today. He said that if we get married, we could apply for a dormitory, cook together, and everything would be more convenient. Naturally, I want to marry him and be with him, but when I think about his family, I don’t know their attitude, and I get worried."

"Don’t worry about his family for now, just focus on your relationship with Yan Hao. It’s mainly about him. He was willing to come all the way here from H Province for you, which is commendable. But don’t be so touched that you lower your own status," Xia Xiao reminded her, not mentioning that a large part of Yan Hao coming here was for Xia Jing, but maybe there was also a small part of him wanting to rebel against his family.

After all, everyone has a rebellious phase, whether it’s early or late; who knows if Yan Hao came through hardships initially because of a rebellious streak. However, his ability to persist all the way from the north to the south, his heart, emotions, even his perseverance and determination, are admirable.

Xia Xiao didn’t want Xia Jing to lower her position out of being moved, to be accommodating and submissive in front of Yan Hao. Nothing much might seem wrong at the beginning, but over time, surely problems would arise.

"I haven’t lowered my status, I’m dating Yan Hao," Xia Jing said, somewhat puzzled.

Xia Xiao wasn’t sure how to explain and could only say:

"Xiao Jing, you can’t spoil a man too much or let him do whatever he wants. You can have a good relationship with Yan Hao, but there are some things you can’t do for him. Now that he’s in the production team, you should help him integrate into this environment quickly, but you can’t do everything for him.

And about eating, either you both go to the canteen like today, or you cook and pack food to bring to him, you can’t possibly do this every day. Even though you live in a women’s dormitory, you can still have him come over to help you cook, then pack the food and find a quiet place or a grassy area to eat together, which is definitely better than doing it this way."

In college, she had seen many boys deliver meals to girls and girls deliver meals to boys. Some people may be touched momentarily, but if it becomes a long-term thing, these touches become taken for granted.

Yan Hao is a good man, but if Xia Jing takes care of everything for him, what he becomes in the future is anybody’s guess.

"Sis, I kind of understand what you mean, but I can’t put it into words," Xia Jing said.

Xia Xiao smiled and said, "I’m just saying, I thought of this while watching you cook and pack meals for Yan Hao. You need to learn to make Yan Hao take initiative. A man can only make you feel safe and reliable when he learns to look after you. Do you like a man who takes care of you or one who always needs your care?"

"Definitely a man who takes care of me," Xia Jing said without hesitation.

Xia Xiao said, "That’s right, so you have to work hard on this. But you can’t just do nothing, sometimes you have to put yourself in his shoes, many things are mutual. For example, when he is sick, you take care of him all the time, but if you get sick and he can’t take care of you, or even can’t accompany you to the hospital, how will you feel then?"

Xia Jing shook her head and smiled, "Sis, I understand your concerns now."

"If you understand, that’s good," Xia Xiao smiled faintly, and the sisters just chatted casually. Xia Xiao had only suddenly reminded Xia Jing because she had thought of it. She just hoped that Xia Jing and Yan Hao would be fine together in the future.

"How are you and your husband? It must be great, right?" Xia Jing asked.

Xia Xiao said, "Well, when I cook, your brother-in-law actively helps with washing dishes and firing up the stove."

Talking about her own matters, Xia Xiao couldn’t quite explain. Her relationship with Gao Jiaxing was very casual, and she didn’t purposely do anything specific.

Moreover, Xia Xiao could see others’ situations clearly but maybe not her own.

Continuing, Xia Xiao said, "You should not feel that if I do something a certain way, you should too. How you two get along is up to yourselves. Just don’t sacrifice your own happiness too much."